Once you’ve coached so long as I’ve, you find yourself studying numerous classes. However most of them didn’t come from certifications, programs, or textbooks.
They got here from expertise—teaching others, teaching myself. And actually? From getting issues fallacious greater than as soon as.
One factor I look again on now and assume, What was I pondering?! is one thing I used to consider was useful…
One thing I noticed numerous different coaches do, too: utilizing train as a type of punishment.
Ever skilled just a little more durable after a weekend of indulgence?
Added an additional spherical on the gymnasium since you skipped a exercise yesterday?
Felt the necessity to “make up for” one thing?
That was precisely the strategy I took with purchasers once I first began out.
You ate greater than you have been “alleged to” over the weekend? Let’s burn it off.
You’re late in your session? Guess what—we’ll make it “damage” just a little extra.
It bolstered a message that’s been echoed for many years: No ache, no acquire.
Someplace alongside the way in which, motion stopped being a celebration of what our our bodies may do and a technique to enhance their capability—and began changing into a software to repair what was “fallacious” with them and one thing we solely do after we did one thing ‘dangerous.”
Meals turned the reward.
Train turned the punishment.
And that, proper there, is the issue.
Utilizing Train as Punishment Modifications Every little thing—Quietly and Deeply
Each time we deal with motion as “the stick” for doing one thing fallacious, we plant a seed. A seed that claims: Train is one thing to be averted.
As a result of nobody seems ahead to being punished.
Even when a exercise isn’t meant to be punishment, that’s the affiliation we’ve constructed. We’re not shifting as a result of we wish to—we’re shifting as a result of we really feel we “need to.” And that’s how one thing constructive turns into one thing we dread. That’s how we go from wanting to maneuver to forcing ourselves to maneuver.
You possibly can’t construct one thing constructive from one thing your mind has realized to worry.
After which we marvel why we’ve misplaced the motivation, the vitality, the joy we used to really feel.
It Damages Our Relationship With Meals—and With Ourselves
Within the punishment mannequin:
Cake = additional cardio.
Lazy weekend = Monday burpees.
However right here’s the reality:
Meals isn’t one thing you must earn.
And your exercise isn’t a “get out of jail free” card.
It’s additionally not an answer to cravings or overeating.
Once we reinforce that meals = guilt and train = punishment, we strip away the chance to construct an empowered, wholesome relationship with both.
I keep in mind a consumer who overindulged nearly each weekend. And each Monday, I’d push them by way of an extra-tough session to “burn it off.”
What I didn’t do? Ask them why it stored taking place.
I did not see that my job as a coach wasn’t simply to “make up for” the conduct…
It was to assist them perceive it. To get inquisitive about what was actually happening. To work collectively to discover a extra supportive manner ahead.
We didn’t change something. We simply stored repeating the cycle.
That’s not teaching. That’s injury management.
It Embeds Disgrace—And Disgrace Doesn’t Create Lasting Change
Disgrace may get somebody to point out up. It would push them to do yet one more spherical, yet one more dash, yet one more cleanse.
Nevertheless it doesn’t construct confidence.
It doesn’t create consistency.
And it positively doesn’t foster self-trust or long-term motivation.
What it does is make the coach the driving force.
Now the consumer exhibits up not as a result of they see worth within the course of—however as a result of they wish to keep away from guilt, embarrassment, or disappointing somebody.
That’s not empowerment.
That’s worry.
And when worry is your fundamental motivator, burnout, resentment, or avoidance simply follows.
Disgrace disconnects us from the why behind motion. It strips train of its pleasure, its function, and its actual advantages.
Why would we tie one thing as important and nourishing as motion to guilt, ache, or efficiency anxiousness?
And extra importantly: Shouldn’t we be doing it for ourselves—to not please another person?
What I’d Inform My Youthful Coach-Self At present
I’d inform her:
I do know you thought you have been serving to.
However you have been reinforcing the identical tales your purchasers already believed:
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That they needed to earn their proper to eat.
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That their physique was an issue to be fastened.
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That being shamed into change was efficient.
I’d present her there’s a greater manner.
As a result of if a consumer “slips up” on their consuming plan, the answer isn’t to punish them with sweat.
It’s to ask:
What made that alternative really feel like the precise one for the time being?
How can we assist you subsequent time to select that feels extra aligned to your targets and values?
If somebody misses every week of exercises, the reply isn’t to crush them after they return.
It’s to assist them reconnect to their why. To remind them what motion does for them—not what it takes from them.
Motion Ought to Be a Partnership, Not a Punishment
As coaches, our job isn’t simply to right.
It’s to get curious. To hear. To information.
To create a protected area for self-discovery.
To supply assist and accountability—however from a spot of respect and compassion, not management.
You don’t want to maneuver to make up for what you probably did—or didn’t—do.
You progress to construct one thing:
A stronger physique.
A calmer thoughts.
A deeper reference to your self.
That shift—from punishment to partnership—is the place actual, lasting well being begins.
What would you inform your youthful self about utilizing train as punishment? —Marlene